导言

1. Brown, Brené. （2009）. Connections: A 12-session psychoeducational shame-resilience curriculum. Center City,MN： Hazelden.

2. Brown, Brené . （2007）. I Thought It Was Just Me（But It Isn’t）： Telling the Truth About Perfectionism,Inadequacy, and Power. New York： Penguin/Gotham Books.

3. Brown, Brené . （2007）. Shame resilience theory. In Susan P. Robbins, Pranab Chatterjee, and Edward R. Canda（Eds.）, Contemporary human behavior theory: A critical perspective for social work, rev. ed. Boston: Allyn and Bacon.

4. Brown, Brené . （2006）. Shame resilience theory:A grounded theory study on women and shame. Families in Society, 87, 1: 43– 52.

5. Brown, B. （2010）. The gifts of imperfection: Letting go of who we think we should be and embracing who we are.Center City, MN: Hazelden.

6. Brown, C.B. （2002）. Acompañar: A grounded theory of developing, maintaining and assessing relevance in professional helping. Dissertation Abstracts International,63（02）. （UMI No. 3041999）.

第一章　匮乏感：审视我们的“永远不够”文化

1. DeWall, C. Nathan; Pond Jr., Richard S.; Campbell,W.Keith; Twenge, J.（2011）. Tuning in to psychological change: Linguistic markers of psychological traits and emotions over time in popular US song lyrics. Psychology of Aesthetics, Creativity, and the Arts 5, 3: 200– 207.

2. Twenge, J., and Campbell, K. （2009）. The narcissism epidemic: Living in the age of entitlement. New York: Simon and Schuster.

3. Twist, L. （2003）. The soul of money: Transforming your relationship with money and life （New York: W. W.Norton and Company）, p. 44.

第二章　认清对脆弱的误解

1. Aiken, L., Gerend,M., and Jackson, K. （2001）.Subjective risk and health protective behavior: Cancer screening and cancer prevention. In A. Baum, T. Revenson,and J. Singer （Eds.）, Handbook of health psychology, pp.727– 746. Mahwah, NJ: Erlbaum.

2. Sagarin, B., Cialdini,R., Rice, W., and Serna, S.（2002）.Dispelling the illusion of invulnerability: The motivations and mechanisms of resistance to persuasion. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 83, 3: 536– 541.

3. Gottman, J. （2011）. The science of trust: Emotional attunement for couples. New York: W. W. Norton &Company.

4. Fuda, P., and Badham, R. （2011）. Fire, snowball,mask, movie: How leaders spark and sustain change.Harvard Business Review. http://hbr.org/2011/11/firesnowball-mask-movie-how-leaders-spark -and-sustainchange/ar/1

第三章　理解并克服羞耻感（又名“忍者勇士训练”）

1. Kross, E., Berman, M., Mischel, W.,Smith, E. E., &Wager, T. （2011）. Social rejection sharessomatosensory representations with physical pain. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 108, 15: 6270–6275.

2. June Price Tangney and Ronda L. Dearing. Shame and Guilt, New York: Guilford Press, 2002.

Additionally, I recommend this edited volume: Shame in the Therapy Hour edited by Ronda Dearing and June Tangney （American Psychological Association, 2011）.

3. Balcom, D., Lee, R., and Tager, J. （1995）. The systematic treatment of shame in couples. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 21: 55– 65.

4. Brown, B.（2007）. I thought it was just me: Women reclaiming power in a culture of shame. New York: Gotham.

5. Brown, B.（2006）. Shame resilience theory: A Grounded theory study on women and shame. Families in Society, 87, 1: 43– 52.

6. Dearing, R., and Tangney, J. （Eds）. （2011）.Shame in the therapy hour. American Psychological Association.

7. Dearing, R., Stuewig, J., and Tangney, J. （2005）.On the importance of distinguishing shame from guilt:Relations to problematic alcohol and drug use. Addictive Behaviors, 30: 1392– 1404.

8. Ferguson, T. J., Eyre, H. L., and Ashbaker, M. （2000）.Unwanted identities: A key variable in shame-anger links and gender differences in shame. Sex Roles, 42: 133– 157.

9. Hartling, L., Rosen, W., Walker, M., and Jordan,J. （2000）. Shame and humiliation: From isolation to relational transformation （Work in Progress No. 88）.Wellesley, MA: The Stone Center, Wellesley College.

10. Jordan, J. （1989）. Relational development:Therapeutic implications of empathy and shame （Work in Progress No. 39）. Wellesley, MA: The Stone Center,Wellesley College.

11. Lester, D. （1997）. The role of shame in suicide.Suicide and Life-Threatening Behavior, 27: 352– 361.

12. Lewis, H. B. （1971）. Shame and guilt in neurosis.New York: International Universities Press.

13. Mason, M. （1991）. Women and shame: Kin and culture. In C. Bepko （ed.）, Feminism and addiction, pp.175– 194. Binghamton, NY: Haworth.

14. Nathanson, D. （1997）. Affect theory and the compass of shame. In M. Lansky and A. Morrison （Eds.）,The widening scope of shame. Hillsdale, NJ: Analytic.

15. Sabatino, C. （1999）. Men facing their vulnerabilities: Group processes for men who have sexually offended. Journal of Men’s Studies, 8: 83–90.

16. Scheff, T. （2000）. Shame and the social bond: A sociological theory. Sociological Theory, 18: 84–99.

17. Scheff, T. （2003）. Shame in self and society.Symbolic Interaction, 26: 239– 262.

18. Stuewig, J., Tangney, J. P., Mashek, D., Forkner,P., and Dearing, R. （2009）. The moral emotions, alcohol dependence, and HIV risk behavior in an incarcerated sample. Substance Use and Misuse, 44: 449– 471.

19. Talbot, N. （1995）. Unearthing shame is the supervisory experience. American Journal of Psychotherapy,49: 338– 349.

20. Tangney, J. P., Stuewig, J., and Hafez, L. （in press）. Shame, guilt and remorse: Implications for offender populations.Journal of Forensic Psychiatry & Psychology.

21. Tangney, J. P., Stuewig, J., Mashek, D., and Hastings, M. （2011）. Assessing jail inmates’ proneness to shame and guilt: Feeling bad about the behavior or the self?Criminal Justice and Behavior, 38: 710– 734.

22. Tangney, J. P. （1992）. Situational determinants of shame and guilt in young adulthood. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 18: 199– 206.

23. Tangney, J. P., and Dearing, R. （2002）. Shame and guilt. New York: Guilford.

24. Klein, D. C. （1991）. The humiliation dynamic. An overview. The Journal of Primary Prevention, 12, 2: 93– 122.

25. Eagleman, D. （2011）. Incognito: The secret lives of the brain. New York: Pantheon.

26. Hartling, L., Rosen, W., Walker, M., and Jordan,J. （2000）. Shame and humiliation: From isolation to relational transformation （Work in Progress No. 88）.Wellesley, MA: The Stone Center, Wellesley College.

27. Pennebaker, J. W. （2004）. Writing to heal: A guided journal for recovering from trauma and emotional upheaval. Oakland: New Harbinger Publications.

28. Pennebaker, J. W. （2010）. Expressive writing in a clinical setting. The Independent Practitioner, 30: 23– 25.

29. Petrie, K. J., Booth, R. J., and Pennebaker, J. W.（1998）.The immunological effects of thought suppression.Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 75: 1264–1272.

30. Pennebaker, J. W., Kiecolt-Glaser, J., and Glaser,R. （1988）.Disclosure of traumas and immune function:Health implications for psychotherapy. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 56: 239– 245.

31. Richards, J. M., Beal, W. E., Seagal, J., and Pennebaker, J.W. （2000）. The effects of disclosure of traumatic events on illness behavior among psychiatric prison inmates. Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 109: 156–160.

32. Pennebaker, J. W. （2004）. Writing to heal: A guided journal for recovering from trauma and emotional upheaval. Oakland: New Harbinger Publications.

33. Frye, M. （2001）.Oppression. In M. Anderson and P. Collins （Eds.）, Race, class and gender: An anthology.New York: Wadsworth.

34. Mahalik,J. R., Morray, E., Coonerty-Femiano, A.,Ludlow, L. H.,Slattery, S. M., and Smiler, A. （2005）.Development of the conformity to feminine norms inventory.Sex Roles, 52: 317– 335.

35. Shrauger, S., and Patterson, M.（1974）. Selfevaluation and the selection of dimensions for evaluating others. Journal of Personality, 42, 569– 585.

36. Brown, B. （September 30,2002）. Reality TV bites: Bracing for a new season of bullies [op-ed]. Houston Chronicle, p. 23A.

37. Mahalik, J. R., Locke, B., Ludlow, L.,Diemer, M.,Scott, R. P. J., Gottfried, M., and Freitas, G.（2003）.Development of the Conformity to Masculine Norms Inventory. Psychology of Men and Masculinity, 4: 3–25.

38. Brown, C. B. （2002）. Acompañ ar: A grounded theory of developing, maintaining and assessing relevance in professional helping. Dissertation Abstracts International,63（02）（UMI No. 3041999）.

39. Brown, B. （2010）. Shame resilience theory. In S. P. Robbins, P. Chatterjee, and E. R. Canda （Eds.）,Contemporary human behavior theory: A critical perspective for social work, rev. ed. Boston: Allyn and Bacon.

40. Williams, Margery （1922）. The velveteen rabbit.New York: Doubleday.

第四章　防卫脆弱的“武器库”

1. Neff, K. （2011）. Self-compassion: Stop beating yourself up and leave insecurity behind. New York: William Morrow.

2. Neff, K. （2003）. Self-compassion: An alternative conceptualization of a healthy attitude toward oneself. Self and Identity, 2: 85– 101.

3. Neff, K. （2003）. The development and validation of a scale to measure self-compassion, Self and Identity, 2:223– 50.

4. Rubin, G. （2012）. Happier at home: Kiss more,jump more, abandon a project, read Samuel Johnson, and my other experi-ments in the practice of everyday life. New York: Crown Archetype.

5. Rubin, G. （2009）. The happiness project: Or, why I spent a year trying to sing in the morning, clean my closets,fight right, read Aristotle, and generally have more fun. New York: Harper.

6. The Centers for Disease Control: Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report（MMWR）, November 2011: Vital Signs: Overdoses of Prescription Opioid Pain Relievers–United States, 1999– 2008.

7. Miller, J. B., and Stiver,I. P. （1997）. The healing connection: How women form relationships in both therapy and in life. Boston: Beacon Press.

8. Louden, J. （2007）. The life organizer: A woman’s guide to a mindful year. Novato, CA: New World Library.

9. Brown, B. （July 25, 2009）. Time to get off the phone [op-ed]. Houston Chronicle, p. B7.

10. Thompson,M. （April 13, 2010）. Is the army losing its war on suicide? Time magazine.

11. Weiss, D. C. （2009）. Perfectionism,“psychic battering” among reasons for lawyer depression. American Bar Association Journal.

12. Stratten, S. （2010）. Unmarketing: Stop marketing. Start engaging. Hoboken: Wiley.

第五章　小心间隙：弥合疏离的鸿沟

1. Deal, T. and Kennedy, A. （2000）. Corporate cultures. The rites and rituals of corporate life. New York:Perseus.

第六章　破坏性投入： 敢于将教育和职场重新人性化

1. Robinson, K. （2011）. Second Edition. Out of our minds: Learning to be creative. Bloomington,MN: Capstone Publishing.

2. Deschenaux, J. （2007）. Experts: Antibullying policies increase productivity. Retrieved from http://www.shrm.org/LegalIssues/EmploymentLaw

3. Gates, B.（February 22, 2012）. Shame is not the solution [op-ed]. The New York Times.

4. Tangney, J. P., and Dearing, R.（2002）. Shame and guilt. New York: Guilford.

5. Freire, P. （1970）. Pedagogy of the oppressed. New York: Continuum.

6. hooks, b. （1994）. Teaching to transgress: Education as the price of freedom. New York: Routledge.

7. Saleebey, D. （1996）. The strengths perspective in social work practice: Extensions and cautions. Social Work,41, 3: 296– 306.

8. Godin, S. （2008）. Tribes: We need you to lead us.New York: Portfolio.

第七章　全心投入的亲子教育：父母要敢当孩子的榜样

1. The Oprah Winfrey Show. Harpo Studios. May 26,2000.

2. Snyder, C. R. （2003）. Psychology of hope: You can get there from here, paperback ed. New York: Free Press.

3. Snyder, C R., Lehman, Kenneth A., Kluck, Ben, and Monsson, Yngve. （2006）. Hope for rehabilitation and vice versa.” Rehabilitation Psychology, 51, 2: 89– 112.

4. Snyder, C. R. （2002）. Hope theory: Rainbows in the mind.”Psychological Inquiry, 13, 4: 249– 75.

附录　涌现的信任：扎根理论与我的研究过程

1. Glaser, B., and Strauss,A. （1967）. The discovery of grounded theory. Chicago: Aldine.

2. Glaser, B. （1978）. Theoretical sensitivity: Advances in the methodology of grounded theory. Mill Valley, CA:Sociological Press.

3. Glaser, B.（1992）. Basics of grounded theory:Emergence versus forming. Mill Valley, CA:Sociological Press.

4. Glaser, B. （1998）. Doing grounded theory: Issues and discussions. Mill Valley, CA: Sociological Press.

5. Glaser, B. （2001）. The grounded theory perspective:Conceptualization contrasted with description. Mill Valley,CA: Sociological Press.

6. Kerlinger,Fred N. （1973）. Foundations of behavioral research. 2nd edition. New York: Holt, Rinehart and Winston.

7. Glaser, B.,and Strauss, A. （1967）. The discovery of grounded theory. Chicago:Aldine.